Monday, April 23, 2007
I have a question
I have a question. I have two sons, and a 3 year old daughter...so why is it that i'm still not sure if i should have more children or not. I can't seem to tell my husband that we are not having anymore kids. He's content with the kids we have ...but i can't seem to make up my mind. Am i the only one who struggles with this?...I know that i'm luckier already than most to be blessed with three healthy wonderful children....but my heart aches for one more. What if i have one more...will i still want "one more" after that? when will this feeling stop? I wish i could just send my husband for his vasectomy and be over baby making..but everytime he mentions it i say sure make an appointment...and then tell him wait ...i'm not sure ....Seeing babies usually makes me want one even more....but then when i have a hard time with one of the kids i say 'ENOUGH"....Mixed feelings is what i call it. I just wish i felt certain about my decisions.....i guess i have to wait a little longer before i make my final decision....(not too long..since i'm not getting any younger lol) Does anyone else struggle with this?
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I used to. My heart just ached for one more. His name is Zachary. :)
It was a hard pg at 36 for me and after him, I felt done. I had a miscarriage in January of this year and it made me so sad. I wasn't trying to get pg. So, I guess I'd always take another one. However, for the most part, I do feel so done. I am 43 now and I don't want to go through another miscarriage.
I see on your blog you are 37. I wouldn't wait too much longer to decide. Some women have no problems getting pg in their later 30's, but some do. It took me almost a year to get pg with Zachary.
Anyway, I'm looking forward to (in no hurry to get!) Grandchildren. :)
It is a personal decision you and your husband have to make. Good luck to you. :)
Well, I am 26, have two kids (one boy, one girl) and about 5 months after our son was born, dh got a vasectomy. For us, we knew we were done. I have my hands full, suffered with post partum depression and 2 is just enough for us! There are still times where I think, "gee, i wish i could have another." But then i remind myself that they aren't that precious newborn for very long and well, they are a lot of work!
I say, seems how you are undecided, i would wait to do anything permanant. Even though we both knew we wanted no more kids, it was depressing to know it was final. So, beings that you aren't 100% sure, I think it could cause more feelings of sadness knowing you can no longer have another baby!
Maybe talking to your hubby about it, i mean a good hear to heart, will help you decide.
I struggle with this A LOT. I have 2 boys but would love to have another one..but then when this thought comes to mind, so many other things start battling in my head.
Maybe it would be best to discuss this with your husband.
I say have as much kids as you want for as long as you can support them in every way - not a rich splendid life - just that you will be able to love them in every way you can :)
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